Reflections on Body, Mind, and Relationships
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Working With Fear Instead of Fighting It
How do you respond when you feel fear? For many of us - the first response is to recoil, pull back and avoid the scary thing. For others they might be proud of their ability to push through - to...
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Moving Through Acute Pain - A Different Approach
A few days ago I woke up with a sore upper back. I have been doing a lot of plastering recently to finish off my strawbale house and my back was starting to complain about it. In fact, it was becoming...
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The End of "Try Harder"
No pain no gain! Another set! Push harder! Go to failure! “If it hurts, that must mean it’s working.” Do any of those phrases sound familiar? Maybe you grew up in sports where your coaches voice was...
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Why Some People Feel Effortless to Be With (And Others Drain You)
Have you noticed how being around some people is incredibly draining. While with others it is really uplifting? With some people you feel hollow inside and when you leave their presence you need to go...
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Why Group Conversations Feel So Hard (And Why It’s Not Your Fault)
You know what it's like at a busy party or group gathering. Clusters of people engaged with each other, some laughing, some telling stories, possibly music playing... Maybe you've felt anxious and...
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If You’re Tired of Hurting, Read This- The Missing Piece in Chronic Pain Recovery
Are you experiencing ongoing pain? Maybe your back is hyper-sensitive and gets tweaked easily. Or maybe there's a particular part of the movement of your shoulder that you can feel yourself bracing...
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The Real Reason Your Body Feels Stiff and Sore — and What Actually Helps
A man told me the other day that wherever you press on his body, the muscles will be sore. He seemed bewildered. He clearly didn't like feeling that way, but he didnt know what to do about it. He was...
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When Your Partners Words Feel Like an Attack
Have you ever had your partner say something to you, which seemed like they were attacking you? Maybe you felt criticised or "made wrong" for something. It could have been the words, the...
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Beyond Rehab - Growing Your Capacity After Injury
I once entered a martial arts tournament and came away with an injury to my hand. 12 months later my knuckle still hurt every time I moved it. Every time I knocked it on something I would feel...
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Why Sitting at a Computer Doesn’t Have to Ruin Your Posture
Do you ever catch yourself - maybe in a mirror or just through felt sense - with your shoulders rounded forward? Or notice your head is jutted forward, as though you were looking closely at a computer...
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Worried About Your Body’s Asymmetry? Here’s What’s Really Going On
Have you ever noticed one side of your body working harder than the other? It can be a strange moment — like when a client once told me they heard a different sound every time they took a step. That...
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What We’re Really Searching for in Love (And How to Find It)
Have you found yourself moving from one relationship to the next, hoping this time you’ll finally find your person — only to watch it unravel again? You try so hard to make it work. You listen, you...
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Boundaries Without Walls - How to Protect Yourself and Stay Connected
Do you ever feel overstimulated around people but you don't want to push them away? You deeply value human connection, yet it all just feels too much sometimes. Maybe you're not sure what to do with...
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Why Your Body Wont Let Go And What You Can Do About It
Do you ever feel like no matter how much you rest, your body never really lets go? Maybe you stretch, meditate, or get massages, but the relief is fleeting. You feel like you should be able to release...
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Gentle Honesty - The Art of Speaking Truth Without Breaking Connection
You want to be honest. You really do. You value openness, depth, and truth. But when it comes to saying what’s really going on for you, your throat tightens, your chest contracts, and suddenly… the...
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The Art of Unraveling - How to Work with Life’s Knots Instead of Fighting Them
Do you ever get stuck in the same pattern, repeating yourself over and over, but not being able to escape from it? Maybe it's the same fight you get into with your partner. Maybe it's feelings of...
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What Happens When You Stop Treating Your Body Like a Machine
A man told me the other day that his shoulder hurt. This is not an uncommon experience for me. I work with people 1:1 to help them resolve issues like this. What I realised as I spoke to him is that...
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How to remain connected when you're triggered in a partnership
One of the biggest struggles I see with couples is that they find themselves in a state where they are "triggered" and then they are no-longer operating from their full-self that can see the...
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